How to Make Your Husband Want You All the Time
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How to Make Your Husband Want You All the Time

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Some time ago I came across a short video clip of a very popular tv relationship host who was answering a question from a newly married woman.

(By the way if your single and you landed here you may want to check out how to find a good husband to start with.)

Now lets continue with my story.

The question the newly married woman asked went something like this: My husband and I just got married and we go everywhere together and do everything together and in fact, we just can’t stay away from each other. I am just wondering if there really would come a time when we wouldn’t want to be together all the time?

She was in fact pretty much-telling everyone that she had in effect cracked the code of how to make your husband want you all the time. 

And was possibly wondering why other women seem to be struggling with it. 

And the host with a small smile on his face started with the short version of the answer:  Don’t worry that won’t last…

And after ten years of marriage, I nodded my head at the very truthful reply he had given to her.

You see the woman was most likely still in what is usually called the honeymoon phase of her marriage.

A man after he has gotten married to the woman of his dreams is usually like that. 

 After all, he has just gotten married to the woman of his dreams. Namely you! And for that time and for a while after that, your husband feels like he has won the lottery. 

How to Make Your Husband Want You All the Time
Men like to conquer

He is a king who has been doing battle for months or even years for a kingdom (the kingdom been you) and has finally conquered it and what does one usually do at least for a while after winning something?

You show it off! You want everyone to see this new thing that you have gotten especially since you worked really hard to get it. You take it everywhere and you don’t want to go too far from it etc

But after a while what happens the euphoria begins to fade. He has won you but that was when? One, two, five years ago? 

The adrenaline rush that he was getting a kick out from trying to best every other guy for you has faded. 

So what happens next?

 Well since men generally crave adventure and have an unending appetite for the thrill of conquests he may move on to other things that satisfy that need.

Football anyone? Computer games? That next promotion? Out hanging out with friends? And in some very sad circumstances another woman.

Now, I would like you to note here that all humans to some extent crave new stuff or something different in their lives and that includes women.

Let’s for example think about that dress that you paid good money for five years ago how much of a kick do you still get out of it now?

That been said in a  marriage where both parties understand and take their vows seriously. Certain things like fidelity for example are upheld.

However, this does not mean you can’t suffer neglect. Remember all the avenues I listed a few sentences above? While they are not bad in themselves but if your husband focuses too much on them you will feel abandoned and unloved.

 Your husband is now giving you the “see finish treatment” he knows everything about you. You are no longer interesting.

But you don’t want that to happen. Or you want that to stop if it’s already happening right?

 You want to remain at the top of your husband want list all the time. You want to be that thing he craves for most of the time.

You want that attention he used to give to you when he was chasing after you before you got married.

You want the hugs, the cuddle the romance all those lovely things he used to do for you way back.

So how can you achieve this now? How do you keep your husband drunk on you for let’s see… forever?

 Well make yourself comfortable and check out these strategies below.

But before you do I will just like to outline what you need to be doing in one broad stroke.

Your man has an adventurous and conquering spirit right? So what you need to do is be the adventure be that thing that needs to be conquered every day.

Be that game with an unlimited amount of levels, so when he hits level one hundred let him discover there a level one hundred and one and so on.

Be that house with an infinite number of rooms.

You, get the idea?

So with that in mind take a look at the list below about how to make your husband love you. You may try all the suggestions directly or tailor them to your man or even come up with your own.

Show him you love him in action and with words

Knock, knock where did the girl who used to fuss over him go?

I know life happens. You may be working, running a business or even be a stay at home mother. 

Each of these can really sap the energy out of you and those things that you used to do for him can easily have taken a back seat or you just don’t do anymore. 

But you will need to find time and ways to revive them. As you read on, you will some of them below.

Then of course there are the easy and free ones that demand nothing in terms of energy but are powerful emotional boosters. 

 Like saying: ‘I love you.’  ‘Have a nice day.’ ‘Can’t wait for you to come home.’ and ‘Thank you.

 Who doesn’t want to come back to a house where they been eagerly excepted and loved?

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Cook for him

Cook is favourite 

It is true that one of the quickest ways to a man’s heart and mind is food.

When last did you whip up that powerful dish he likes? Or perhaps try something new that he said he liked when he ate it somewhere else. Or something his mother makes and he likes a lot?

If you can’t cook don’t fret take this as your chance to learn ( sure your first try may not be perfect but he will appreciate the effort) and you can improve by constant practice.

Go online and you will find many videos which will guide you step by step.

Chances are depending on your daily life routine you may not be able to this all the time. That too is fine. 

 Doing the same stuff every day can lead to boredom anyway. So keeping it special is not a bad idea.

Allow him to enjoy his hobbies and passions

Eleven men in short knickers running after a  ball. How is that fun? Well, maybe not to you but it is to him.

He can say the exact same thing about you concerning your insatiable love for (Korean drama or Zee World) for example.

We humans, in general, all like and love different things and your man will love you more for respecting and allowing him within reason to enjoy his passion and hobbies.

Take some interest in his interest

This will elevate you even more in his eyes. Now I am not saying watch football every Sunday with him you may not like it and he may not either.

But do consider doing it once in a blue moon. Find out more about the hobby. So you can engage him every now and then on the subject when he wants to and his friends are not around to discuss it with him.

Some time ago a guy challenged the ladies on a social media platform to define the term “offside in football.” He then invited all the guys to sit down and have ‘fun’ reading all the answers.

While they were many funny and clueless answers a few of us ladies knew our stuff and the guys were shocked and impressed.

So just note that taking an interest in what your man those will be viewed by him as you taking an interest in him.

Plan a weekend getaway or even at home

If you have the financial muscle to pull this off go for it.

 If not consider trying to have it at home which will mean despatching the kids or the other people who may be staying with you to the grandparents or relatives who are trustworthy. 

It doesn’t even have to be a weekend it could just be one night.

Just purposely carve out some quality alone time with him and tell him that it’s a reward for all the hard work he is doing and a thank you from you and make it a memorable time.

Flirt with him

This brings us back to those simple things you used to do as boyfriend and girlfriend.

Private romantic jokes or talks.  Private romantic gestures like waist dances, taps on the bottom etc I don’t need to elaborate anymore here I hope?

These are simple but powerful ways of communicating love and attention to him and moments like these also help prepare you for behind close doors activities.

Watch a romantic movie together or just one together.

The lights are off or low and you place your head against his shoulder or on his chest or you lie on his lap snacking on chin-chin with a cold drink… nothing else to add here.

Plan a date night indoors

On the off chances that you can’t get everyone out of the house so you can be alone. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to have some alone time with him.

This is a lower version from planning a full-scale getaway weekend. Try this out on a Friday night  (this should normally provide you with the opportunity to sleep in)or any other night that you think will work. Put the kids to bed and stay up together for a few hours doing anything you like.

Communicate openly about your feelings

You probably have found yourself in this scenario several times. Hubby does something and you are mad. But he can’t seem to tell that your mad or even if he can tell he may be clueless as to why you are. And to you the whole thing is obvious.

“We men I have been told several times by my husband are not mind readers.”

This simply means you need to say what is wrong even if you think he should know.

Men tend to prefer a direct approach when it comes to communicating with them.  So try to speak up rather than communicate with facial features or body language.

Surprise him with a gift

How would you feel if you got a gift just out of the blues meaning it’s not your birthday or a special occasion.  You will feel ecstatic right?

So you can consider getting him something to say I love you.  Note you don’t have to buy something. You can try making something instead or doing something special.

Have a sound general knowledge

Men like smart and intelligent women. Now I am not saying you should become a book worm but still having a little knowledge about everything will impress him.

 You can achieve this by reading books, watching documentaries and following the news etc 

Respect his alone time.

This is not strictly a man thing. Has human beings it is natural and healthy to crave some time to ourselves.

My husband, for example, likes and tries to go for evening walks every evening and he says enjoys it because it’s a time for him to think or plan or listen to music. So just me time ok? He should have that and so should you.

Be his best Friend

Be his best friend

This should be a given your spouse should be your best friend. The person he turns to first for almost everything. Moments of joy, sadness, help with problems, fun times etc.

Think of what a dependable friend is like and be that to your husband.

Now let’s talk a bit about the things that will not endear you him but may rather want him to keep his distance from you.

Nagging

Even I, I am not absolving myself of this. At times we nag we women are just more talkative than men I guess that is how we are made.

That been said repeating stuff round the clock can drive him away. So try to simply say what you mean without over talking. Try it ok?

 Don’t be a mouse (Floor mat)

Good men like women who can hold their own. Women who are not afraid to speak up or say their minds.  Self-assured women.

Remember what I said about them liking adventure? Life is no fun with someone who kisses your feet all the time. 

In fact, not only will he quickly lose interest in you, it may encourage him to start taking you for granted and possibly start mistreating you.

Do note I am not saying disrespect your husband but you can calmly state your thoughts and position on things (Men who like women that behave like floor mats are not good men.)

Don’t forget him because your now a mother.

It easy to lump him in has an extra child after a while. Have it in mind that he needs to be loved as a husband and not only has your children’s father.

I once heard a man make the following remark: ‘women just want three things: one to get married, two to have kids and three to have theirs and children’s needs met full stop. Once all that is set life is good.’

The statement sounded pretty sad and selfish to my ears. But rather than get angry, I saw it has a call to reflect and you should too. Did you marry your husband to make yourself happy alone? How often do you think about how to make him happy? Food for thought.

Try to correct all the things he points out about you that you do wrong

Are they things you do that he doesn’t like? And deep within you also know you shouldn’t be doing but are still doing anyway?

Taking correction is also a way of showing love.  Perhaps you quarrel a lot with your neighbour for example. 

I know you may be thinking but what about him? Just note that two wrongs do not make a right. 

And of course, if you start making effort to change it will possibly encourage him to address your own issues with him as well.

Be independent, be capable up to a point

As much as possible try to be independent. Don’t rely on him for everything all the time around the clock.

You want to laugh him

You want to cry him

You need something in the house him

Open the pot him

Close the pot him

Complain to the children’s teacher him

Cockroach in the bathtub  him

I think you get the idea now.

I hope you can see how quickly exhausting that can be.

The only person who you can depend on one hundred per cent like that and would not get exhausted is God.

Show some initiative and independence by trying to handle most things on your own whether emotional, financial, physical or a problem. 

That way when you do need his help he will always be eager and not too exhausted to provide 

It.

So now with some of the major don’ts out of the way let’s continue to look at more tips on how to make your husband fall in love with you again.

How to Make Your Husband Want You All the Time
Dress up

Dress up

When you were dating you probably took your time making yourself look good but after marriage, you may have slowed down a bit.

Men are highly visual creatures so try to get back into that mould and jazz things up from time to time.

He will appreciate your trying to look good for him and you will feel good too as well.

Bathe with him occasionally

Just make sure you can do this with the utmost privacy.

Consider giving him a body massage

Suprise him one day or night with a full body massage it will be fun and relaxing for him even if you don’t know what you are doing.

Put the phone down when engaging in a conversation with him.

You will come across as an uncaring person if when he is talking to you you are busy on your phone. Reverse the roles and I am sure it will be clear to you what I mean.

Learn something new together

Doing stuff together will help you both bond.

Pick up something you can do together like a dance or learn a language or just anything that both of you can engage in.

Practice the act of listening without interrupting 

At times we just want someone to hear us out. Men are no different. If you usually fall into this trap.  It’s time to try to have a more listening ear. This may be tough I know but it helps with better communication and he will respect you more if you allow him to say his piece without interrupting.

Tell him he is the best

Nothing makes you feel better than being told you are amazing. This is super effective on men they like it a lot.

Men are attracted to people who think the world of them.  Just make sure the praise is authentic by finding genuine opportunities to do so.

Did he run errands for you?

Help you get your car started?

Give unplanned extra cash from something you needed.

Help sort the kids’ homework?

Cook?

A man likes to be told that he is doing a great job at being a husband and a father so look for those opportunities when he is fulfilling that role and heap the praise.

Compare him positively to other men

I will illustrate this with  a beautiful story I came across online 

An online influencer narrated an incident about a trip she took home to the village with her spouse.

Over there they both went on to attend their various meetings. The men meet at a particular spot and the women too also had their meeting not too far away.

Now the men had arranged food and drinks for themselves while there nothing going on within the women circle.

She whispered in confidence to the person sitting beside her that her spouse will not eat a thing but will rather bring his food to her.

And she was right! As soon as he got his share he got up and brought his plate to her to have some ( if not all of what was offered on it.)

Now, this particular post generated quite a lot of debate for many reasons. But here is what I  want you to take away, just one thing: 

 And that is how she praised and positively compared her husband to other men. Chances are he got to see this post or heard about it from other people.

Tell me why a man like that will not want to be around his wife all the time?

Look for such opportunities they gold! And I guarantee you they sure make your husband want to be with you most of the time.

Now it doesn’t have to be you talking about him to someone else. It could be something like this: I notice Mr X doesn’t bother to help his wife with the children while in church I am so glad that you do.  I hope this example is clear? Let’s move on.

Let him help you and it’s ok if he is not getting right

I will illustrate this with another example. This time from a video online (lots of examples from there!) In this video, a man demonstrates how most  (men ) would clean up a baby using baby wipes and he emptied the entire pack while for a woman she would use just the one.

Of course, most women could relate but the takeaway here for you is to grade your man who does this and other things in an attempt to assist you an A for effort. Some men wouldn’t because they either too scared or don’t care.

So yes when he helps out praising him for it and do not be too critical of him for not doing a perfect job as you would have.

I repeat men like to feel like they are doing a great job as a husband or father.

I also will like to add here that they are men who are excellent when it comes to handling children and you’re super lucky if you have one and above all, you should praise him for it.

Support his dreams and ambitions

Every human being has dreams and goals. But the drive to achieve and conquer is usually much stronger in men than women.

So any support he can get especially from you will be very appreciated. Now it could be for something as serious as a job promotion or something not so life-changing like winning a locally organized chess game. Just be his biggest supporter and fan and his ultimate comforter if things don’t work out.

Accept his personality quirks

Except, for example, they are life-threatening you can overlook some of the odd things that your spouse does that may put you off. 

To be fair we all have those little things we do that makes no sense to our partner but drive them up the wall.

So if it’s something really inconsequential quit nagging him about it and just let him be.

So there you have it. Now there is a lot here to try and digest so don’t try to implement everything at once just pick a few and once you have successfully implemented you can come back to try others.

Another thing I will add here is that no one knows your spouse better than you. So feel free to put your own spin on things to make it work for you.

Don’t embark on this with the aim of being the perfect wife. No one is perfect ok? But chances are with all this treatment that you are giving him as a king you will forever be his queen in his eyes and heart and that is your goal.

Now over to you share your thoughts on this and if have your husband drunk on love for you share your knowledge for others.

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